Easy ways to Conquer Your Fears about Your Vows
Categories: | Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
Marrying the love of your life is
going to be an extremely emotional
experience. In fact, and this is no secret, the
reason we all love weddings (celebrants
included) is precisely that. Seeing the emotions
on your faces - tears and all - is what really
makes a wedding for your guests. It's what grabs
the heart, lifts the spirit, and makes everyone
present silently go Awwww. And often we
join in and shed a tear or two as well
(celebrants included).I call it the three big W's of a wedding - Welling Up, Willing the Couple On, and Wishing the Marriage Every Success.
But one of the biggest fears couples share with me is about speaking in public, stuffing up their vows, and ugly crying! It is normal to feel a bit nervous at the same time as feeling excited (the butterflies are the same, by the way), but don’t worry, it will be all right on the day. Making your vows to one another is not like standing on a platform, facing an audience, and making a speech.
With my help, we’ll make sure that your vows are natural expressions of what you want to say. And, because you are prepared and happy with your vows, none of the following things that marrying couples commonly worry about are going to spoil your day:
Common Fear #1: Going blank
out
Going blank isn't going to happen. You don’t have to
memorise and remember your vows. You can repeat them
after me, or you can read them from lovely cards I'll
make for you. Common Fear #2: Freezing up
out
If you do need to pause for a bit, just breathe calmly
and quietly in through your nose and out through your
mouth. Practice this and use it both before ceremony
starts and during it. You’ll be amazed at how calm
you’ll feel!Common Fear #3: Blushing,
Shaking, Dry Mouth
out
These are common physical responses to being nervous.
Even if they do happen you can do things that will
bring you to a calmer state where the symptoms start
to fade away. Ignore blushing and concentrate on what
you are promising to you best beloved. Drink lots of
water before the ceremony and try not to think about
it. Concentrate on what you’re doing (Marrying the
love of your life) instead of the fact that you’re
blushing, shaking, or have a dry mouth and the
symptoms will resolve themselves quite quickly.Common Fear #4: Ugly Crying
out
There's nothing wrong with shedding a few (happy!)
tears on the big day. Trust me, while the chance of
you actually ugly-crying on your wedding day is very
very slight, it is a huge fear for many people. But
you can avoid
ugly crying with some simple preparation.Thanks for reading!
