RED at a wedding - the hill I'm prepared to die on

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by Jennifer Cram - Brisbane Marriage Celebrant © (20/11/2023)
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The words "RED:
                      is the hill I"m willing to die on" on a
                      red backgroundWearing Red to a Wedding as a guest or as the celebrant. That's the hill I'm prepared to die on. While this might sound extreme, there are extremely good reasons for my stance.

History

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We are all familiar with the mantra (aka the rule) Don't wear white to a wedding. Which, in reality, is shorthand for Don't upstage the bride. It's a simple enough rule of etiquette, but let's unpack it.

  • Brides, apart from insanely rich brides, did not wear white until Queen Victoria made it almost a rule that you broke at your peril. White clothes were expensive and difficult to maintain. Remember, despite romantic movies, the world was a far dirtier place. Unsealed roads. Horse poop in the streets. No council garbage collection. No vacuum cleaners. You get the picture.  And, most brides just wore their best dress.
  • Photos were posed, studio photos. And colour film did not exist.
  • So it was all about the in-person experience on the day.

Symbolism

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While Western brides wearing white was quickly translated into being symbolic of purity, rather than of wealth, and, in certain cultures, the bride always wears red as a symbol of happiness. the general symbolism of red has been historically far more complex than that of white.
  • Red has represented many things, from the life force and the divine, to love, lust, anger, and courage.
  • From early times to the end of the Middle Ages, red held a place of privilege in the Western world.
  • In the Middle Ages, red had religious significance, as the color of the blood of Christ and the fires of Hell, together with and secular meaning, as a symbol of love, glory, and beauty.
  • During the Reformation, Protestants began to review red as indecent and immoral and linked to luxury and the excesses of the Catholic Church.
  • For many cultures, red is deemed to be the only colour worthy enough to be used for social purposes.
  • After the French Revolution, red became associated with progressive movements and radical left-wing politics.
  • A female guest wearing red to a wedding is, in parts of Europe, an admission of a previous hook-up with the groom!

Technological advances

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Wedding photography in the 21st century is nothing like it was in the 19th, or even for most of the 20th.
  • Black and white photography is a stylistic choice, not the only game in town
  • Pretty well every guest will have a device that allows them to not only take photos, but to publish them on social media and send them to friends, 
  • Some guests, and your official, professional photographer will have the capacity to zoom in for close-ups
  • Photos of your wedding will live forever in the cloud

A photographic truism

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Red draws the eye. It's a bulletproof resource for grabbing attention. If a photographer wants to draw the eye of the viewer to something, including in a landscape, they will position a "touch of red".

It's a trick that has its origin way before cameras were invented. In the Renaissance period, for example, red was used to draw the viewer’s attention to the most influential figures in a painting.

Translate this to a wedding and a red-wearing celebrant changes the whole dynamic of the ceremony.

What about red lipstick?

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I'm hardline on this one. The majority of brides still opt for subtle lip colours, and grooms go au naturel. Put a celebrant, or a bridesmaid wearing bright red lipstick in the picture and your main people look pale by comparison.

So, while women are commonly advised to wear red lipstick when doing a public speaking gig, it should be remembered that solemnising a marriage is more than just a gig, and much more than about the celebrant.

Are there any exceptions?

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There are always exceptions!
  • Bridesmaids all dressed in red
  • All the guests being requested to wear red

Why are these exceptions? Because red en masse becomes a background, a sophisticated contrast against which the marrying couple, and what they are wearing, stands out. We all love those photos of the marrying couple in front of a red wall.

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                        Jennifer Cram
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