
Wearing Red to a
Wedding as a guest or as the celebrant. That's the
hill I'm prepared to die on. While this might sound
extreme, there are extremely good reasons for my
stance.
History
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We are all familiar with the mantra (aka the rule)
Don't wear white
to a wedding. Which, in reality, is
shorthand for
Don't upstage the bride.
It's a simple enough rule of etiquette, but let's
unpack it.
- Brides, apart from insanely rich brides, did
not wear white until Queen Victoria made it
almost a rule that you broke at your peril.
White clothes were expensive and difficult to
maintain. Remember, despite romantic movies, the
world was a far dirtier place. Unsealed roads.
Horse poop in the streets. No council garbage
collection. No vacuum cleaners. You get the
picture. And, most brides just wore their
best dress.
- Photos were posed, studio photos. And colour
film did not exist.
- So it was all about the in-person experience
on the day.
Symbolism
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While Western brides wearing white was quickly
translated into being symbolic of purity, rather
than of wealth, and, in certain
cultures, the bride always wears red as a symbol
of happiness. the general symbolism of red
has been historically far more complex than that
of white.
- Red has represented many things, from the life
force and the divine, to love, lust, anger, and
courage.
- From early times to the end of the Middle
Ages, red held a place of privilege in the
Western world.
- In the Middle Ages, red had religious
significance, as the color of the blood of
Christ and the fires of Hell, together with and
secular meaning, as a symbol of love, glory, and
beauty.
- During the Reformation, Protestants began to
review red as indecent and immoral and linked to
luxury and the excesses of the Catholic Church.
- For many cultures, red is deemed to be the
only colour worthy enough to be used for social
purposes.
- After the French Revolution, red became
associated with progressive movements and
radical left-wing politics.
- A female guest wearing red to a wedding is, in
parts of Europe, an admission of a previous
hook-up with the groom!
Technological advances
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Wedding photography in the 21st century is
nothing like it was in the 19th, or even for most
of the 20th.
- Black and white photography is a stylistic
choice, not the only game in town
- Pretty well every guest will have a device
that allows them to not only take photos, but to
publish them on social media and send them to
friends,
- Some guests, and your official, professional
photographer will have the capacity to zoom in
for close-ups
- Photos of your wedding will live forever in
the cloud
A photographic truism
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Red draws the eye. It's a bulletproof resource for
grabbing attention. If a photographer wants to draw
the eye of the viewer to something, including in a
landscape, they will position a "touch of red".
It's a trick that has its origin way before cameras
were invented. In the Renaissance period, for
example, red was used to draw the viewer’s attention
to the most influential figures in a painting.
Translate this to a wedding and a red-wearing
celebrant changes the whole dynamic of the ceremony.
What about red lipstick?
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I'm hardline on this one. The majority of brides
still opt for subtle lip colours, and grooms go
au
naturel. Put a celebrant, or a bridesmaid
wearing bright red lipstick in the picture and your
main people look pale by comparison.
So, while women are commonly advised to wear red
lipstick when doing a public speaking gig, it should
be remembered that solemnising a marriage is more
than just a gig, and much more than about the
celebrant.
Are there any exceptions?
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There are always exceptions!
- Bridesmaids all dressed in red
- All the guests being requested to wear red
Why are these exceptions? Because red en masse
becomes a background, a sophisticated contrast
against which the marrying couple, and what they
are wearing, stands out. We all love those photos
of the marrying couple in front of a red wall.
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